The Devil Prefers Livestock
Part 2 "2009-2013" (as written in 2013)
I arrived in Vietnam with my dogs with plans on staying for good on 2/25/2010. I remember lying in bed the first night thinking, WTF did I do? I snapped out of it the next day thankfully and tried to make the best of it. The first month was uneventful until I found out that Hong lied to me about being in Singapore just before I got there.
Hong attempts suicide
In late March 2010, Hong said she wanted to visit her mother after I was there for a month and said it was better if I stayed home since the power always was out down there in the jungle where her family was from. I had a weird feeling because Hong had her sister and her cousin's passport in our dresser but not hers, so I started snooping and looked at her computer while she was gone and saw that the I.P. Address, she sent an email from just a week before I came to Vietnam for good was an I.P. address in Singapore. I said WTF? She never told me that she went to Singapore; what was she hiding? I called her while she was at her mother's and asked her where her passport was so I could see if she was in Singapore. She kept saying that she didn't go to Singapore and wanted me to wait until she returned to show me where the passport was. I was pissed; why did she lie about going to Singapore? Before she returned, I was able to run a low-level analysis on her hard drive that pulled up deleted cookies that showed she had a Facebook account which I also didn't know. I was able to find the username and reverse engineered a way into the account by guessing what the password was from other passwords she used and saw that she was talking to some guy in Singapore that was proclaiming his love for her. I acted like her and chatted with the guy to find out what they had done or how serious it was. I was able to gather that she only kissed the guy (Long story as to how I did it, but I know how to manipulate, and this guy seemed like he was a virgin, so I assumed it wasn't anything other than her having a Plan B in the event I decided not to move there). I was beside myself though, because she lied. Who knows what else she was up to while there, so I told her that it was over. She returned in tears and finally showed me the passport, and I saw that she was in Singapore for three weeks just before I moved to Vietnam. I told her that I wished I had picked the other girl Phuong, and that she was "no good," etc. I went to get a foot massage and came back to find her lying in bed when she told me that she took 24 sleeping pills. WTF... I quickly took her to a medical place that only spoke Vietnamese, and Hong said to me that they said she would be OK as long as she went to a hospital within 24 hours. They said they couldn't help her there because they were just a small clinic. I was up for two days and tired and returned home wanting to go to sleep, but it didn't make sense to me why a pill overdose is OK for 24 hours, so I angrily told Hong to get on the motorcycle so we could go to the hospital 10 miles away. It was 2 AM now, and I drove like a madman and screamed at Hong the whole time for taking those pills.
The fact that I drove like a madman kept her awake and saved her life. We walked into the hospital, and it looked like a warzone. People were lying everywhere on the floor because all of the beds and stretchers were full. Every other person was in a motorcycle accident since 99% of all vehicles in Vietnam are motorcycles, and many were riding while drunk since it was so late. Guys were lying on the blood-soaked floor with their intestines in their hands; another guy had his eyeball hanging from his head. All you could hear was anguish and moaning. I quickly got the attention of the intake nurse that spoke some English, and he asked why I was there. I showed him the empty box of pills she took, and his eyes about popped out as he quickly went to get a doctor to come and take Hong's pulse. As the Doctor took her pulse, I could see he was scared, and even though there was a bloody mess of people waiting, he took her immediately and put her on a gurney, and wheeled her outside on the sidewalk since there was no room in the hospital. They began to pump her stomach within 5 minutes of me walking in the door. The Doctor told me that she would have been dead in 20 minutes had I not come. Little did I know, she was also one week pregnant with our son. I saved two lives that night. I now know from being told by Hong's friend that Hong took the pills out of fear that the triads would sell her off as a lifelong slave since she messed up the scam against me by going to Singapore.
The picture below was the picture I took at the hospital. The hallway she is in has an open wall to the right that is an outside courtyard. They left her in that hallway for three hours until they got a room for her, where she was admitted until the next day when I took her home.
The route I drove from point A to Point B from my house to the hospital that night is pictured below. I lived at the spot the arrow points to on the top of the map and the arrow on the bottom points to the hospital we were at. I didn't know how to get there; if Hong had passed out, we would have been screwed, and she and my unborn son would have died for sure because I had no clue where to take her.
Hong and I reconciled while she was still in the hospital, and I tried to move on from the whole thing, but no matter how hard I tried, I always had it in the back of my mind that she was dishonest, and I always felt like there was something else that I didn't know. I was right in more ways than I had ever wanted to know, but time would deliver the details bit by bit; it wasn't going to come overnight. So basically, I was bored in Vietnam and occasionally went to Macau to hang out with Hong's friends. We ended up finding out that Hong was pregnant a month after the pill overdose, and Hong told me that she would be shamed if she had a baby out of wedlock and pushed me to marry her "in a shotgun wedding of sorts you could say" in only two months in Vietnam. I knew that the United States wouldn't recognize the marriage, so I said yes since it was supposedly important not to shame her family by having a baby out of wedlock.
The Bogus Wedding
( yes, that's Hong and me in this background pic )
There were close to 450 people at the wedding throughout the day, and I had only my knucklehead friend Yanni that I flew in 3 days prior, LOL... I practiced a Vietnamese Toast for over a month and thought it was strange that Hong quickly left right before I said it. I now know it was because she felt terrible and didn't want to stand there as everybody secretly laughed inside since they all knew it was a scam. Only my friend Yanni and I thought it was legitimate, but they do it all of the time in Hong's family; I was just another sucker very close to getting hung out to dry. The wedding was beyond Crazy, it was in the jungle at Hong's Parent's house, and Hong hired 7 Ladyboys to perform. They were taking off their tops with 4-year-old kids looking on. It was a night to remember for sure.
The fact that they go All-Out on the wedding is part of the scam. By making sure it is professionally videotaped and comes across as genuine, it is done to erase any doubt that the marriage wasn't legitimate so they can keep your money once you get arrested or killed. They have this scam down to a science. Hong even told me that there are a few Americans in the remote jail by her father's house. No Americans live within 100 miles of there, and it's not like America where they transfer prisoners far away to do their time. They are there as a result of being set up by girls like Hong. They steal more than the money you have though; Hong told me that their families send money from America to get better food and living quarters. Hong's family gets residual income off the scam. I am pretty sure that the guys in there probably don't even realize that the one they loved was the one that set them up because they do everything behind the scenes with exacting detail and always make sure that they can point the finger at one or two other directions when the time comes.
Below on the right is a map that shows where Hong's family lived in Vi Thanh, Vietnam. The "1" arrow was her father and Uncle's houses and where we had the wedding. The "2" arrow is the prison where Hong said Americans are and the prison where the Warden is also good friends with Hong's Father, who once scolded Hong for not framing me sooner, which I found out six months later. The other two yellow blocks are where her other Aunts and Uncles live.
July 2010- After the wedding, Hong and I regularly argued due to several more lies I caught her in about her past. She had her friend "7" come to the house and invite me to stay in Macau at her place for five days which is when my every 5-week trip to Macau started to happen. This was in August 2010. Hong always said I could have fun if I didn't fall in love with anyone. I was very lonely over there, and the change of scenery every five weeks was fun, not to mention that all her friends doted over me the entire time I was there. I was the only guy there with 6 to 8 girls around me at all times unless "7's" Husband was there, but he never went out with us because he was too busy hacking my computer back at the house whenever the girls would get me out of the house for that sole purpose by taking me to the Disco. Little did I know it was all part of their master plan to destroy me after my guard was completely down and after I trusted them like family.
Kieu is on the left, and "7" (real name Ngoc My Linh) is on the right. "7" told me that she got the nickname "7" because she ran away from home at 11 years old and didn't return until "7" years later when she was 18. Hong said that wasn't true and that "7" had to go make money for the family and that she didn't leave until 14. 7's mother seemed to be very sweet, but their father was evil; I remember one time I went to their parents' house and "7" started crying and screaming out of nowhere, and her father kept saying "Du Me" which means "Fuck your mother" in Vietnamese. The reason "7" cried was that she just found out that her father stole $5,000 U.S. that was meant to buy property for "7" and "7" gave the money to her mother to hold a few months prior, but her father forced the mother to give it to him, and he blew the money on his mistress and gambling. 7's father used to rape her older sister Nhan when they were younger.
"7" was the leader and Boss to all the girls; as I stated previously, she ended up marrying a Chinese Triad named John (his AKA) that lived part-time in Hawaii and liked computers like me, so we hit it off pretty good. John would do things like ride with me in the Taxi back to the Airport when I went back to Vietnam, insist on paying for the Taxi, and even walk me inside to make sure I got checked in OK. They have a way of making you feel special. I also think it was done to assure they knew where I was and who I always talked to in order to ensure their scam would never be discovered. The fact that he was a Triad was quickly forgotten and overlooked since I genuinely felt like they cared about me like family. I'm not entirely naive; I knew that they liked me for my money and what I could do for them, but that was OK with me because I didn't feel like it was the most important reason. They know how to make you feel loved, especially when you can't speak to 99.9% of the people you meet, and all your friends and family are 8000 miles away. They know that you are lonely and feeling out of place. That dynamic makes you a prime target for their scam technique. Below is a picture of John and "7" at their wedding
Another detail that I think speaks volumes was when I was at John and 7's wedding they had a guy singing, and the guy came to my table and was singing in my face but he didn't realize that the guy sitting next to me was my interpreter that lived in America since he was 14 and was also naïve about how things go down in Vietnam since he moved away long ago and lived in Saigon before leaving. My interpreter came from a good family. His grandfather was an American Soldier who got his grandmother pregnant but had to leave Vietnam at the end of the war. They haven't seen the grandfather since because the grandmother had to burn all evidence of the grandfather's existence out of fear that they would be killed if it was discovered by the Communist Party at the time who were raiding and pillaging Saigon after the end of the war. His father didn't look Vietnamese at all even though he was 50% Vietnamese and to this day only speaks Vietnamese. My interpreter's family were good people that were not discriminatory towards Americans since they had to endure how badly his father was ostracized and tormented while growing up in Vietnam, looking like he was an American. My interpreter told me that the guy singing to me at 7's wedding was singing a traditional Viet Cong war song as he and the crowd laughed. My interpreter didn't even realize it until later, but the guy was mocking me in front of everybody. He sang a song that says, "we will kill you and be victorious," in front of almost 400 people.
I was never a big drug guy and didn't even drink alcohol until I was 28 due to getting gravely sick from drinking half a bottle of Peppermint Schnapps when I was 15, which turned me off on alcohol for 13 years until I started drinking red wine when I was 28. All of Hong's friends smoked what I was told was Designer Ephedra even though it was "ice." They would always come up to me and put it in my face and offer it to me constantly with their cute little smiles to go with it. Hong told me that they do that when they like you and want you to feel special (whatever!). But keep in mind that I wanted to fit in since I was a fish out of the water over there, so it was hard to resist after a while, and I eventually relented. I wanted to connect on any level since the language barrier and culture clash isolated me in a way I never knew could exist. Once the drug hits, you feel a bond with the people you are doing it with, and they would give me massage after massage, and several of her friends came on to me one after the other. Remember, Hong said I could have fun and fun I did have. Ignorance was bliss as they molded me into their evil web, with me being none the wiser the entire time. I would buy all of her friends' gifts, help them with their iPods, go to Discos with 8 of them and only me; I felt like a Rock Star, and I thought life was amazing, but looking back, I can see that they were gathering information and executing their scam the entire time.
Typical Day at 7's in Macau
This video was taken by me when I was with her friends at the DD3 Disco in Macau. My hard drive on my brand-new MacBook broke the very next day, which I now know resulted from 7's husband hacking it while we were at the Disco. That was the whole purpose of getting me to stay at 7's house, so they could access my computer when they took me to the Disco or test my bravery to determine what scams to execute. 7's husband John seemed like he was faking sleeping before we went to the Disco, but I didn't overthink it at the time.
I went to a Disco a total of four times with her friends in Macau and almost got into a fight three of the four times. I now know it was staged because they wanted to test my bravery to decide what kinds of scams they could do to me. Every time I didn't back off an inch and showed zero fear. The three episodes had 1, 2, and 3 guys that I almost got into a fight with. If I flinched or showed fear on these three occasions, they were going to try and scam me by getting me to sleep with 7's Husband's Boss' Wife that did come onto me, but she wasn't my type. She never tried to come onto me again because they realized that I wasn't a coward, and their plans to have me sleep with his wife and then act like he found out and wants to kill me if I don't pay money wasn't going to get them very far with me. The two Discos in Macau that they took me to, which I was told they take all scam targets, were called "DD2" and "DD3". DD3 was safer than DD2 because 99% of the people in DD2 are Triads. I had two of the three skirmishes at DD2 and one at DD3. The picture to the left is of 7's friend Yuri and her Triad Husband that I never met in person. Notice how he has a few guys in the background always watching his back. This guy has four Wives and can't even go to the bathroom without several Goons shadowing him for protection. I guess he worries about retaliation from the hundreds of people they have already scammed.
Criminals in Asia
Love in Return
Even though all the girls ultimately joined in to scam me in the end, it seemed a few of them started to love me (which I believe because I look back and see how the girls were sabotaging each other in their efforts to try to help me at different times in attempting to warn me). I wanted to save them all at the time, and they could feel how I cared about them in ways their own family never did. It took its toll on them, and Hong's friend "7" warned me that Hong was a bad person and even told me that when I first met Hong and gave her $4600 that it was "7" that Hong called when she went into the hotel bathroom crying, and "7" said to give the money back because it would make me love Hong and want her. "7" was right.
Hong also helped me from time to time and betrayed her conspirators, but I was too naive to heed the warnings and just shrugged it off. Hong warned me that 7's husband was jealous of me and that I need to think about why he would be happy with a guy coming over and taking all the girls' attention away from him and making him less important. Hong also warned me not to go anywhere with 7's husband the one time I was in Macau in October 2010 when there was a big blowout where Nhung told "7" she loved me and didn't want to work in Macau anymore. I now know it was her saying no to scamming me anymore, which made 7's husband John irate because if Nhung left Macau, it meant less money for him since he got a cut of what the girls made at the Sauna. Hong told me that John thought I was playing games, and Hong and Nhung thought John was taking me to a place 5 miles away to ambush and kill me. I was still confused and thinking they were my friends, so I didn't believe Hong, but at the same time, I said no to him when he asked me to go with him. John ordered food an hour later and was adamant that I ate and ignored me when I said "NO" and just kept telling me to eat. It was a surreal moment; I think he laced the food with something that would have put me out, but I never took a bite. Hong thought that maybe John was going to have me and Nhung killed. I now know that she was right because now that I know Nhung wanted to leave Macau because of me, John was scared Nhung would tell me the truth, so he planned to kill us both to protect the Triad's dirty secrets since he knew killing only Nhung wasn't enough since he also didn't trust Hong and feared she would tell me too. At the time, I thought Hong was still wrong though even though John was giving me weird vibes with the food so I told John that Hong thought he was going to have me killed possibly and I could see the look of astonishment on his face that one of the girls would go against his trash organization like that. This was October 2010, which shows me that Hong and Nhung loved me at least for a short time. "7" was always angry with John, and the very next day before I returned to Vietnam, she threw something at John after her older sister Nhan cried in front of John and me and angrily called him a snake that smiles the whole time while he is stabbing somebody. I was later told that it was not only because they found out that John wanted to kill me the day before but that he still planned on having me killed soon. This showed me that 7 and her older sister Nhan loved me like a brother (I was never intimate with either 7 or Nhan, which is why I say love like a brother, but I was intimate with 7's younger sister Kieu and their friend Nhung). Four months later, in February 2011, "7" told me that her younger sister Kieu loves me as she told me about Hong being evil. "7" told me that her younger sister Kieu loved me and kept trying to say that Hong was not a good person. I was very generous and sweet to all the girls, and they felt that I cared, I guess. Usually, much older guys go to Macau that only care about having sex with these girls. I think that helped the stars align in my favor and tested their loyalty to the Triads and their families also since I was probably the first guy that showered them with gifts and love with no strings attached that was also under 40 and in good shape. I showed them I cared about them constantly. I didn't judge them, and they knew that; it tore at their hearts over time. I remember how Kieu called me crying one time and said that I am so good, and she just kept crying but wouldn't tell me why. I now know she was forced to execute the scam on me, but she loved me and felt trapped. I cared deeply about all of these girls, so you can only imagine my fall from grace on the day 7's husband John told me that they were all scamming me from day 1.
Below are pictures of Nhung, 7's older sister Nhan and 7's cousin "Baby." I know that Baby cared about me because she cried in front of me one time out of nowhere, and towards the end, she was never happy like she always was when I first started hanging out with them in Macau. I also remember when Kieu called me crying, saying that she has problems with Baby about something she wrote in her diary. I now know it was pertaining to her being sad about what everybody was doing to me, and Kieu felt terrible because she was starting to care about me. She felt horrible for being involved in the evil plot to bring me down. Still, she was being pressured by her Father, John Lam, and the other behind-the-scenes Triads who do this all of the time but probably never fail due to their absolute patience and attention to detail.
Back to the beginning of the story, there was also Phuong that I met the same time I met Hong. I stopped communicating with Phuong when I decided I would be with Hong long-term until I ran into her again in Macau in April 2011, over a year after I moved to Vietnam. Phuong called me the day after I got there and tried to warn me, but I didn't understand what she meant at the time. She told me not to take iPhones that belong to other people, which I now know was about the iPhone that "7" and John had me take to Vietnam on April 14th, 2011 "The Airplane Scam," which was a clone of my iPhone with other things added to it, like fake text messages to a number in China making it look like I was a drug smuggler or something else illegal! I guess Phuong cared about me in the end also.
December 2nd, 2010 - My Son is Born
New Year’s Eve December 31st, 2010